Even now my husband and I barely acknowledge this day of ‘celebration’ – I’d much prefer him to surprise me with a bunch of flowers, a thoughtful gift or special dinner out ‘just because’ rather than feeling he has to go out and buy something because the marketers say he’s a crumby husband if he doesn’t!
So I was a little concerned when last year my five year old came home from Prep with a bag full of Valentines Day cards, sweets and little gifts. Huh? Did I miss a memo? Did I fall asleep and forget we’d moved to the USA? I’m confused.
When did Valentines Day become this big in Australia? When did it become necessary to teach our young children that they should go out and spend money on cards and gifts for their friends because it was Valentines Day? Do they even know what Valentines Day is? A quick check with my five year old reveals – a blank look. So that’d be a ‘no’.
So this year I’ll again refuse to fall for the commercialism that surrounds Valentines Day. Instead I’ll be helping my kids with an activity which was actually inspired by a good friend of mine in the US. We’ll be handwriting letters to the people we love telling them why we are grateful that they are in our lives. No gifts, just letters.
I started doing this a couple of years ago and it is truly a rewarding activity for both the sender and receiver. It made me realise how lucky I was to have these unique and wonderful people in my life. And it was a rare opportunity to really communicate to them how valued they are, and how important they are to me and my family.
So this Valentines Day I encourage you to do the same. Forget the commercialism. Instead express gratitude for your loved ones. It is the best gift you can give them.Click here to download the FREE printable “I could just squeeze you” card created exclusively for Confetti Mag subscribers by Hello Pants – just perfect for sending out with your letters this Valentines Day!
“It is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” Joshua Becker